A Toss or New Traditions?

Why More Brides Are Ditching the Toss

Once a staple of wedding receptions, the bouquet toss has lost its appeal and more brides are skipping the tradition all together. We’re here for it! The bouquet toss might be nostalgic for some, but today’s brides are realizing that not every tradition needs to be upheld, especially ones that feel outdated or a little awkward! If you’re planning your big day and feeling unsure about whether to include the toss, you’re not alone. Let’s talk about why skipping it has become such a vibe!

It Can Feel Uncomfortable (and a little forced)

Let’s be real, lining up all the single ladies like it’s a game of dodgeball during recess doesn’t always hit the mark. Some guests find it fun but others find it embarrassing or outdated. Your wedding should be about joy, comfort, and authenticity. If a moment doesn’t resonate with you or your crowd, it’s perfectly okay to toss it from the lineup.

The Tradition Has an Unexpected Origin

Historically, the bouquet toss came from the idea that catching the bouquet would make you the next to marry and before that, it was a way for guests to literally tear pieces of the bride’s dress or flowers for good luck. Back in the day, weddings weren’t always about love. For many women, marriage was a way to escape poverty or help their families move up in society. Often, weddings were more like business deals between families. Because of this, people believed that touching the bride or her dress on her wedding day could bring good luck. Some women even tore off pieces of the bride’s dress or accessories to keep as lucky charms. This led to the tradition of the bride tossing her bouquet while trying to get away from the eager crowd. Romantic? Not exactly. And let’s be honest, desperation is the last thing anyone wants to feel on their wedding day.

Couples Want More Time to Connect

One of the most common regrets couples have about their wedding day? Not having enough time to connect with their guests. The bouquet toss, along with other formality-heavy segments — takes time and energy that could be spent enjoying the moment, dancing, or catching up with loved ones. Dropping the toss is one way to keep the vibe flowing.

Modern Alternatives Are Taking Its Place

Some brides are getting creative. Instead of tossing a bouquet, they might hand it off to a special guest (like a grandmother or mentor), or simply skip it altogether. Others are keeping their flowers intact to preserve or repurpose them after the wedding. 

At the end of the day, the best weddings are the ones that reflect you. If the bouquet toss feels right, go for it! But if it doesn’t? Don’t be afraid to ditch it. Whether you’re trading it in for a slow dance, a surprise toast, or more time on the dance floor, you’re making a choice that makes the day feel more true to who you are.

So… What Do You Do With Your Bouquet Instead?

If you’re skipping the toss, you’re probably wondering what to do with that gorgeous bouquet after the “I dos.” Good news! There are so many creative ways to preserve it and turn it into a meaningful keepsake.

Here are a few ideas:

At the end of the day, your wedding should reflect you. The bouquet toss might be fun for some, but if it doesn’t fit your vibe, the tradition does not need a spot in your day. So as your big day approaches, what do you think? Will you be tossing the bouquet, or tossing out the tradition altogether?!